Rules in love and life..........

Five Rules to be happy:

1) Free your heart from hatred,

2) Free your mind from worry,

3) Live simply,

4) Expect less and,

5) Give more

The real test of true love is having all the things go wrong but still having a special way to love despite of all the wrong things that may happen.

Always take a CHANCE. The end result may not always be what you hoped for but that's fine... At least, you will never go through life wondering "What if... and "If only...."

Hold a friend's hand through times of trial, let him/her find love through a hug and a smile... But also know when it is time to let go, for each and everyone of us must learn to grow.

Love is not a word to say when we feel guilty nor the right word to say when we like a person... But LOVE really matters when we share our thoughts, our minds and our hearts.

A soul mate is someone who brings out the best in you .. They are not perfect but is always perfect for you.

Never whisper words of love if the feeling is not true ... Never share your feeling if you mean to break a heart...

Never look into my eyes if all you have to do is lie... and never say hello if you really mean goodbye...

Genuine friendship is not measured by time ... but it is measured by acceptance ... A friend is one where even though you reflect the silver, he/she sees the GOLD.

It takes 3 sec. to say "I love you",

3 mins. to explain it,

3 hrs. to demonstrate it,

3 days to appreciate it,

3 trimester to produce it...

but a LIFETIME to prove it.

The human heart feels things the eyes cannot see, and knows what the mind cannot understand.

3 amalan berterusan membolehkan seseorang dilabel sebagai bertakwa

Oleh Ahmad Redzuwan Mohd Yunus Penulis ialah Pensyarah Di Jabatan Pengajian Dakwah dan Kepimpinan, Universiti Kebangsaan Malaysia

ORANG yang bertakwa di bumi ini akan dibalas Allah dengan menempatkan mereka di dalam taman syurga dan di sisi mata air di dalamnya. Hal ini dijelaskan dalam firman-Nya, yang bermaksud: “Sesungguhnya orang yang takwa berada di dalam taman-taman syurga dan di mata air-mata air sambil mengambil apa yang diberikan kepada mereka oleh Rabb mereka. Sesungguhnya mereka sebelum itu di dunia adalah orang yang berbuat baik.” (Surah az-Dzariyat, ayat 15-16).

Mereka bukan saja ditempatkan pada kedudukan istimewa di dalam syurga, malah lebih jauh daripada itu mereka diberikan Allah segala kenikmatan dan ketenteraman yang tiada bandingannya.

Kedudukan mereka berbeza dengan orang yang berada dalam kesengsaraan, mereka mendapat azab, seksaan dan pembakaran daripada Allah.

Kedudukan dan kenikmatan yang diperoleh orang yang bertakwa itu disebabkan kebaikan yang mereka lakukan ketika hayatnya.

Dalam surah sama, selepas ayat di atas, Allah menerangkan apakah kebaikan yang mereka lakukan ketika hayat. Kebaikan itu ialah mereka sedikit tidur pada malam, memperbanyakkan keampunan, mengeluarkan zakat dan memperbanyak sedekah.

Hal ini dijelaskan dalam firman-Nya bermaksud: “Mereka sedikit tidur pada waktu malam. Dan pada akhir malam mereka memohon ampun (kepada Allah). Dan pada harta mereka ada hak untuk orang miskin yang meminta dan orang miskin yang tidak mendapat bahagian.” (Surah az-Dzariyat, ayat 17-19).

Bagi orang bertakwa, sesungguhnya tidak ada malam yang datang kepada mereka melainkan mereka mengerjakan solat, baik pada awal malam mahupun pertengahannya. Mereka tidak tidur melainkan sebentar untuk menghilangkan kepenatan. Sekiranya, mereka terlebih tidur, hati mereka akan menyesal kerana tidak dapat melaksanakan ibadah khususiyyah kepada Allah.

Mereka juga meneliti kitab Allah dengan penuh khusyuk bagi membantu memahami Islam dengan lebih sempurna

Malah, mereka melakukan muhasabah terhadap diri, apakah kebaikan yang mereka lakukan setiap hari dan apakah larangan Allah yang dilanggari.

Abdullah bin Umar berkata, Rasulullah SAW bersabda: “Sesungguhnya di dalam syurga ada kamar yang bahagian luarnya terlihat dari bahagian dalamnya dan bahagian dalamnya terlihat dari bahagian luarnya. Abu Musa bertanya: Untuk siapakah semuanya itu, ya Rasulullah? Baginda menjawab: Iaitu bagi orang yang melembutkan ucapan, memberikan makan dan sentiasa bangun malam kerana Allah, pada saat orang lain tidur nyenyak.” (Hadis riwayat Imam Ahmad, Ibn Hibban dan al-Hakim).

Pentingnya seseorang hamba itu memperbanyakkan ibadah ketika orang lain tidur kerana ibadah yang dilakukan ketika itu akan terhindar daripada hiruk-pikuk, kebisingan dan kesibukan manusia. Oleh itu, penumpuan hati manusia yang beribadah ketika itu akan lebih khusyuk dan terarah kepada Rabb-nya.

Dalam jagaan malam itu juga, mereka banyak memohon keampunan dengan beristighfar kepada Allah hingga waktu sahur. Mereka yang ikhlas melakukan hal sedemikian, diberikan keampunan oleh Allah.

Hal ini dijelaskan Rasulullah SAW, dalam sabdanya: “Sesungguhnya Allah turun pada setiap malam ke langit dunia pada ketika malam tinggal sepertiga, kemudian berfirman: Adakah orang yang bertaubat, maka Aku akan terima taubatnya? Adakah orang yang memohon ampunan sehingga Aku akan berikan keampunan kepadanya? Adakah orang yang mengajukan permintaan, maka Aku akan berikan kepadanya? Sehingga terbit fajar.” (Hadis riwayat Muslim).

Sikap itu dilakukan oleh Nabi Yaakub yang berkata kepada puteranya seperti dijelaskan dalam firman Allah bermaksud: “Aku akan memohon keampunan bagimu kepada Tuhan-Ku.” (Surah Yusuf, ayat 98). Ahli tafsir menjelaskan bahawa Nabi Yaakub melakukan permohonan itu sehingga waktu sahur.

Di samping itu, mereka adalah orang yang mengeluarkan zakat, selalu bersedekah dan menghubungkan silaturahim menerusi harta yang dimiliki. Mereka akan memberi hak sepatutnya kepada golongan yang berhak menerima habuan daripada hartanya, terutama di kalangan orang miskin.

Rasulullah SAW bersabda: “Orang miskin itu bukanlah orang yang berkeliling mendatangi orang ramai, baik dia diberi satu atau dua suap, satu atau dua butir kurma, tetapi orang miskin adalah orang yang tidak mendapat sesuatu yang menjadikannya merasakan cukup dan tidak mempunyai kepandaian, maka hendaklah ada yang bersedekah kepadanya.” (Hadis riwayat al-Bukhari dan Muslim).

Berdasarkan huraian di atas, didapati ada tiga usaha menyebabkan seseorang itu boleh dilabelkan sebagai orang bertakwa di sisi Allah.

Mereka ialah orang yang banyak berjaga malam dan sedikit tidurnya kerana beribadah kepada Allah dengan seikhlas-ikhlasnya.

Kedua, mereka yang banyak beristighfar kepada Allah terutama pada waktu sahur.

Ketiga, mereka yang mengeluarkan zakat serta banyak pula bersedekah kepada orang miskin kerana menyedari pada hartanya ada hak orang lain.

:: 1 Minute Tips to Play Golf!!! ::

By Tom Ward, PGA Tour Instructor

Almost anyone can learn to play an enjoyable game of golf, regardless of age or natural abilities. I have worked over the years with many golfers with Physical Disabilities. However many have not allowed this unfortunate handicap to limit them in continuing to enjoy golf. In fact, many are fundamentally better than their healthy counterparts because they are forced to utilize sound mechanics which prove that Golf can make the playing field more equal for everyone.

Through these articles you will see how I am going to dispel many myths that are prevalent in the world wide golfing community, such as "Keep your eye on the ball". I teach blind golfers to play, so that throws this theory out the window. Golf is a Billion Dollar Industry of Misinformation! I am not going to try to re-invent the wheel for you - only act as a guide to help you sort out fact versus fiction when it comes to what really goes on in the golf swing and the game. So if you want to learn to play golf, you CAN. Now let's move on to "lesson one", and how I approach golfers who are new to the sport.

My first lesson with a pupil: they show me, I show them.
Without showing or telling a new pupil anything at all, I have them swing the club the best they can. Then I briefly have them explain to me what they think it takes to hit the ball. This gives me an idea of what natural ability they possess, as well as how to approach them mentally based on their verbal descriptions.

After the new golfer has made some swings for me and we have talked briefly about whatever they have been exposed to up to this point in learning, I have them sit back and watch, and listen, as I fully explain and demonstrate the 5 basic body actions necessary to achieve maximum results in attaining their golfing goals of "playing well in a relatively short period of time which will require minimum amounts of maintenance".

The "5 Basic Actions" are:

1. Foot Action
2. Leg & Knee Action
3. Hip & Shoulder Action
4. Arm Action
5. Hand & Wrist Action

Other than your head, this incorporates your entire body. In the next lesson we will start the process of how to start your swing from the "Ground Up instead of the Hands Down" using this "5 basic actions dynamic domino effect" - which creates the proper chain reaction necessary to becoming a solid golfer for a lifetime.

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Make sure you check out the tabbed browser, web developer extensions they are really good ;)

Tips before Signing Up for a Merchant Account!

Read these tips before signing up for a Merchant Account.

Many payment processing companies make themselves look extremely large on the Internet, yet are really just big advertisers and high pressure sales people who are not really a payment processing company at all. They sell processing for whoever pays them the most commission and it is always the merchant who ends up paying for it, usually in the first few months and in startup costs.

It is a known fact within the processing industry that more than 75% of new Internet businesses have a slow start or fail altogether. Avoid companies who's high monthly fees will drain your resources. Remember that many of them are depending on those monthly fees to compensate their sales and marketing efforts.

Since most sales people in the merchant account business are never going to tell you that there are better deals for you out there, we have compiled a list of things to watch out for.

What to Watch Out For:

Hidden Fees

- Find out if there are any fees whatsoever that aren't disclosed. Here is a list of some of the garbage fees that merchants pay because they are not aware of a better solution:

- Chargeback fees
- Retrieval fees
- Termination fees
- Gateway fees
- Gateway Per Item fees
- Hidden setup charges
- Non-refundable setup charges
- Batch fees
- Cancellation fees
- Minimum fees
- Pass through fees (these vary)
- Over limit fees
- Voice Authorization fees
- Voice AVS fees
- Non-Sufficient Funds fees
- Bank Setup fees
- Daily Close-out fees
- Software fees
- Licensing Fees
- Annual fees
- Amex/Discover setup fees
- Statement Fees (more for more services)
- Customer Support fees
- Technical Support fees

Misleading Ads

- Be wary about advertisements that are misleading or are flat out dishonest. If they lie on their ads then most likely they will not care about you later on. Watch out for blurbs like:

- $500 Cash Reward if you can find a Better Deal. Research their reward and see what exactly they mean by reward. You may be surprised to find out that the reward is actually a cash refund after you sign up.
- Lowest Prices Guaranteed (Again, research their guarantee. They usually offer money if you can find lower prices, but the money paid to you is a refund once you sign up).
- No Setup Fee (Search their prices very carefully, they usually have another name for it like "real-time fee", "gateway fee", "software fee", or "virtual terminal fee").
- Instant Activation (These types of accounts have severe limitations attached).
- Instant Merchant Account (Be sure to ask them when you can receive your funds).
- Free Merchant Account (This is a gimmick; find out where the hidden costs and stipulations are, because every company must make a profit somewhere).
- No Merchant Account Needed (Do you really want someone else to handle your money for you and pay you when they want to? Technically you are under their umbrella, even though they issue you a merchant ID number. MasterCard and Visa do not allow multiple parties to share the same merchant account and will eventually shut these companies down).
- 99% of all Applications Approved (This is probably untrue, any credit card processing company with a 99% approval ratio is going to be out of business with all the risk they assume).
- 24 Hour Customer Service (Are they really providing it or do they pay an outside answering service. Try it out before you sign on the dotted line).
- 24/7 Technical Support (Are they really providing it because a reseller must depend on someone else. Also if you have multiple services, you may be calling many different support lines).
- We Offer Credit Card Processing (Find out if they are really just a sales office with no data center. If they are, they're at the mercy of a bank which may not live up to the sales office promises).
- We Offer Merchant Accounts (Most credit card processing and merchant account companies are really just sales people selling for someone else.
- Accept Credit Cards and Checks (Is it one company providing many services or a reseller selling multiple services for multiple companies for the most profit? Remember that the merchant will always pay for the higher commission that the sales people are paid).
- We Offer International Merchant Accounts (What they often mean is that they process payments from anywhere. Anyone who accepts Visa payments can accept them internationally).
- No On-Site Pictures Required (Find out exactly what they mean by this statement because this is a bank requirement).
- No Business License or Tax Returns Required (If this is really happening then the bank providing the merchant account is in a lot of hot water).

Remember that Visa and MasterCard regulations require that a company disclose who their sponsoring bank is if they mention Visa and MasterCard anywhere on their website or advertisement.

POS Hardware Scams

Don't assume that low priced hardware comes with the best processing because it usually doesn't.

Don't buy hardware that you can't take with you to any other processor.

Watch out for lease terms, this can be like buying a car. It is sometimes irrevocable and you have to pay a high percentage rate like 15-20% because it is not in-house.

Some processors secretly lock their terminals with a code that only their system can unlock.

Always ask about the total startup cost, hardware pricing, software license fees and be sure to shop around.

In 2001 the amount of terminals that were shipped in the U.S. were Over 1.5 million:

1. Verifone - Over 584,000 POS Terminals
2. Hypercom - Over 517,000 POS Terminals
3. Ingenico - Over 190,000 POS Terminals
4. Lipman - Over 166,000 POS Terminals
5. Thales - Over 44,000 POS Terminals

Note: Our advice is to stick with the most popular terminals. ECHO sells and supports the most popular POS Terminals for most types of businesses.

You Don't Have Full Use of Your Funds

If you are non face to face business (non-retail) be careful because many processors will freeze your funds once you start to show any processing growth. This has put many companies out of business because their cash flow was frozen by their processor. Most Processors only want businesses that do less than 10,000.00/mo. and once a business passes that amount they become a high risk business.

Lack of Integrity

Verify their integrity! Do a background check and see if the company is known for doing business with companies like yours. Did they become successful by supporting online gambling casinos and adult porn sites? These two industries bring in huge revenue:

"We felt the traffic on our site might be interested in the gaming world," said Gary Kremen, CEO of Sex.com. "It seems that the value of gaming is higher than adult sites."

Partnering with gambling and porn companies will bring legal issues with your processing company, and possibly even you. Lou Hirsh of ECommerce Times in his article for NewsFactor called, Is Porn Still the Hidden King of E-Commerce? said, "Experts noted that even as the porn industry as a whole rakes in dollars, it must also deal with legal limitations because of its taboo nature."

"Some companies, however, have decided that casino money isn't worth the risk given gambling's dubious legal status in the United States and the attempts by some state and federal officials to crack down.

Just this week, PayPal (Nasdaq: PYPL) of Mountain View was subpoenaed by the New York Attorney General's office, which is investigating online gambling." NewsFactor July 15, 2002

Chargeback Management Issues

Many processors assume that the merchant is wrong and don't process the chargeback in a timely fashion which robs the merchant of an opportunity to respond and avoid the chargeback.

Fees for chargebacks vary but most processors consider chargebacks to be a huge source of revenue and therefore have no desire to limit chargeback fees and help the merchant to minimize chargebacks to begin with..

Discount Rate Not Refunded

Most processors keep the discount rate whenever a credit is given. What this means is that if your business gives a lot of credits to keep customers happy, you can make a lot more money by working with a processor who returns the discount rate originally charged with every credit you give.

Big Bank Outsourcing

Don't assume a big bank is either better, or more ethical or has less costs. Most big banks outsource all of their services and leave the merchant paying the high fees.

Declined Transaction Fees

Be aware that if you host an online store then you are likely to get a bunch of declined transactions. Those declines cost money per transaction even if they are declined, usually around 20 cents each. The processor will know if these are from fraudulent attempts and might charge you anyway without telling you, as in many cases. A dishonest processor can tack on declined transaction charges in many ways and so it is important to work with a processing company with a good reputation.

Contracts

Be careful of signing a contract too hastily. Read the application carefully because some contracts carry a non-cancellation clause or penalty. If a company will not leave an application with you overnight, they are probably trying to use "high pressure" tactics so that you don't really know what your signing.

Good Advice

If you really want to get as close as possible to the truth about credit card processing companies visit the Google Groups at http://www.google.com/grphp and follow these instructions:

1. Type in the name of the company that you are considering signing up with and add one of these keywords to it: "scam" "fraud" "lawsuit" "ripoff" "sucks" "dishonest" "illegal" without the quotes.

2. Find out what people are saying and see who has the best reputation. Be sure to check the dates.

I was amazed to find out how many companies were either suing their own customers for an unpaid cancellation fee or would not issue a refund to an unhappy customer or would withdraw unpaid fees directly from a merchants account without prior notification.

Remember that many companies try to cloak their dishonest practices by selling out to a bigger company when the going gets tough. These problems will not just go away so do your homework and find out the history of the company you are considering signing up with.

Al-Quran tidak menolak kebaikan tradisi orang lain

Ufuk Minda: Al-Quran tidak menolak kebaikan tradisi orang lain

BErsama Prof Dr Sidek Baba

MENGINSAFI bahawa sifat zaman berubah dan berdaya maju, ilmuwan dan ulama Islam sepanjang zaman membina tradisi ilmu, berfikir dan intelektual. Mereka merujuk al-Quran dan sunnah sebagai landasan mengembangkan prinsip asas yang Qurani. Begitu juga melakukan ijtihad dan pengembangan berasaskan fatwa dan kesepakatan ulama, ilmuwan dan profesional dalam kepakaran masing-masing. Ia faktor maju dan membangun tidak ditolak, tetapi tetap berlaku dalam acuan yang Islami.

Gambaran dunia Islam hari ini berlainan berbanding pada zaman Rasulullah SAW, sahabat, tabieen dan yang mencetuskan tamadun besar. Pada waktu itu, prinsip murni Islam tidak saja dihayati dan dikembangkan dalam tradisi ilmu dan sistem pengurusan. Malah, sifatnya amat bersepadu.

Keadaan itu menyebabkan ulama dan ilmuwan tidak saja amat ahli dalam ilmu mengurus diri, malah berkembang dalam ilmu mengurus sistem. Akhirnya, mencetuskan tamadun besar yang membolehkan Islam dilihat hebat dari sudut pengembangan ajarannya. Hebat juga dalam keupayaan ulama ilmuwan dan penganutnya dengan menampilkan peribadi besar untuk menjana kemajuan dan menggerakkan perubahan.

Pada hari ini wujud kebekuan ilmu dan tradisi berfikir yang amat ketara. Keadaan itu hingga menyebabkan umat Islam menjadi pengguna kepada kekuatan tamadun Barat. Mereka belum mampu melepasi diri untuk menyumbang ke arah pembangunan tamadun umat manusia.

Namun, ia tidak bermakna ajaran Islam itu lemah atau tidak lengkap bagi mengatasi cabaran sezaman dan kerenah lingkungan. Namun, ia akibat suburnya dualisme dan sekularisasi ilmu serta pendidikan yang menyebabkan ajaran Islam sebenar atau sepatutnya terpinggir.

Tradisi ‘turath’ atau bercorak tradisi tidak dapat dikembangkan bagi menghubungi metodologi berfikir kini yang lebih banyak menumpu kepada tradisi kajian dan fakta yang terputus dengan nilai tauhid dan nilai murni. Teori ilmu berkembang secara empirikal dan asas ilmu yang bercorak keagamaan dianggap dogmatik dan tidak berorientasikan asas saintifik.

Faham rasionalisme, humanisme, pragmatisme dan saintisme Barat berkembang pesat. Ia menjadi sumber rujukan dan kaedah utama dalam memperkasa proses pengilmuan dan pendidikan di kalangan sistem di negara umat Islam sendiri.

Akhirnya, generasi yang lahir di kalangan warga umat ialah yang menyisihkan tasawwur atau ‘worldview’ ilmu dan pendidikan yang berteraskan nilai. Sebaliknya, berkembangnya sistem yang tidak menjadikan nilai dan etika sesuatu yang amat utama.

Skop pemikiran tidak lagi menghasilkan ilmuwan yang mempunyai upaya berfikir yang reflektif terhadap zaman dan perubahan. Tetapi sedang melakukan liberalisasi ilmu dan pemikiran berasaskan acuan Barat.

Apa yang berlaku terhadap umat Islam ada sejarahnya. Sejarah itu menyebabkan wujudnya acuan yang menghasilkan ilmuwan Islam yang sifatnya terpinggir. Ilmuwan Islam tidak lagi menjadikan tradisi tadabbur dalam erti kata yang luas sebagai pedoman dalam melakukan kajian dan pengembangan.

Sebaliknya, pendekatan kuantitatif dan kualitatif dalam kaedah penyelidikan hanya bersandarkan kepada fakta dan data yang dianalisis. Ia kemudian dijadikan rumusan atas hipotesis yang tidak terhubung langsung dengan nilai rohaniah dan kemanusiaan itu sendiri.

Latihan intelektual ini tidak mampu menemui makna sesuatu yang terkait langsung dengan proses kejadian dan penciptaan, takdir dan musibah. Ia menyebabkan formula mengatasi masalah kemanusiaan yang parah semakin kehilangan punca.

Pada prinsipnya umat Islam tidak menentang Barat dari sudut faedah berbanding yang boleh didapati daripadanya. Apa yang disanggah oleh umat Islam ialah proses pembaratan yang memiliki tekad dan perancangan bagaimana minda dan tradisi keilmuan orang Islam dapat ditukar menjadi Barat. Seterusnya, meremehkan tradisi keilmuan dan pendidikan Islam yang terbina sekian lama dan terbukti pada masa yang lalu menghasilkan tamadun besar yang menyumbang kepada Barat dan Timur.

Perkara ini harus jelas di kalangan umat Islam supaya tidak timbul tanggapan bahawa Islam mengajar tradisi keilmuan yang tertutup. Seolah-olah al-Quran tidak mengajar pentingnya ilmu yang bermanfaat daripada tradisi dan tamadun orang lain.

Pengalaman proses ketamadunan umat Islam pada masa lalu, tidak menolak kepentingan berbanding yang baik dan bermanfaat daripada tradisi orang lain. Keterbukaan Islam untuk menerimanya menjadi faktor yang sentiasa hidup dan perlu dihidupkan, terutama di tengah penguasaan Barat terhadap ilmu alat pada masa ini.

Iqra: Panduan tangani marah dalam diri

Iqra: Panduan tangani marah dalam diri

Panduan tangani marah dalam diri

Penulis: Datuk Dr Mohd Fadzilah Kamsah

Penerbit: Telaga Biru Sdn Bhd

Pengulas: Hasliza Hassan



DIRIWAYATKAN daripada Abu Hurairah bahawa seorang lelaki meminta nasihat daripada Rasulullah SAW. Katanya : “Berilah wasiat kepadaku.” Sabda Rasulullah SAW : “Janganlah engkau marah.” Lelaki itu mengulangi (permintaannya) beberapa kali. Rasulullah SAW tetap bersabda : Janganlah engkau marah.” (Hadis Riwayat al-Bukhari)

Marah adalah sifat semula jadi yang ada pada semua orang, antara mereka ada yang cepat atau lambat marah.

Perasaan marah selalunya didahului perkara yang boleh mendatangkan kemarahan menyebabkan seseorang itu memberontak dan bertindak kasar.

Ada juga orang yang suka marah tidak bersebab dan pantang salah sedikit, mula naik angin serta bertindak seperti orang tidak waras.

Orang yang dalam keadaan marah mudah hilang pertimbangan dan kadang-kala perasaan marah berlanjutan sehingga menimbulkan permusuhan, lebih aneh lagi apabila perkara yang digaduhkan adalah benda remeh.

Oleh kerana besarnya bahaya marah, Rasulullah SAW melarang keras seseorang daripada marah, dengan menyifatkan orang yang berjaya menahan diri daripada perasaan marah sebagai pahlawan berani.

Sifat marah mesti dilahirkan dalam bentuk kesungguhan, kegigihan, kerja keras, semangat mengatasi orang lain dan semangat diri yang terasa tercabar.

Bagaimana mengawal marah? Pakar motivasi terkenal, Datuk Dr Mohd Fadzilah Kamsah, menghasilkan buku berjudul Menangani Sifat Marah yang menggarap persoalan membabitkan perasaan marah dan cara mengawalnya.

Buku Menangani Sifat Marah adalah buku ketujuh dalam siri buku motivasi beliau yang diterbitkan Telaga Biru Sdn Bhd dan dikarang bersama penulis dan pakar motivasi, Muhammad Zakaria.

Teks dalam buku ini dipermudahkan dalam bentuk nota ringkas, subtajuk dan kisah untuk memudahkan pembaca membuat rujukan dengan santai.

Buku ini juga dipenuhi gambar foto dan ilustrasi untuk memberi penjelasan serta gambaran secara praktik bahawa sifat marah mudah dikawal dan disalurkan menjadi sifat mahmudah.

Selain itu, mesej disampaikan dalam bentuk gambarajah, carta dan jadual bagi memudahkan pembaca faham dan memiliki kemahiran diri membentuk personaliti cemerlang.

Buku Menangani Sifat Marah setebal 104 muka sesuai sebagai panduan kepada semua individu dari segenap lapisan masyarakat untuk mendapatkan tips bagaimana menangani sifat marah dalam diri mereka.

.:: Wajarkah Perkahwinan MIsyar??? ::.

Sejarah perkahwinan misyar:

Dikatakan mula wujud dan dilaksanakan di tanah Arab pada 1825.

Perkahwinan seumpama itu banyak berlaku di kalangan wanita yang berkedudukan tinggi dan berpendapatan lumayan di negara Arab Saudi serta beberapa negara Teluk.

Bermaksud suami tidak perlu memikul tanggungjawab memberi nafkah zahir seperti wang ringgit dan pakaian, tetapi cukup hanya dengan memenuhi nafkah batin isteri.

Boleh jika mendapat keizinan daripada pihak perempuan yang perlu dibuat secara bertulis bagi mengelakkan berlakunya perkara yang tidak diingini.

Sokong perkahwinan misyar diamalkan:

Tidak seharusnya timbul persoalan mengenai penghinaan terhadap wanita kerana mereka sudah memberikan keizinan

Sesuai untuk wanita yang berharta.

Bagi mengatasi masalah wanita yang belum lagi mendirikan rumah tangga.

Mampu mengurangkan masalah berkaitan dengan kegiatan maksiat yang wujud dalam masyarakat.

Tidak sokong perkahwinan misyar diamalkan:

Tidak bersesuaian dengan corak kehidupan masyarakat di negara ini.

Jumlah wanita belum berkahwin tidak ramai sehingga menimbulkan masalah.

Dianggap menghina wanita kerana tujuan perkahwinan misyar hanya untuk menghalalkan hubungan seksual.

Suami terlepas dari tanggung jawabnya sebagai ketua rumah tangga kerana tidak perlu bayar nafkah zahir kepada isteri dan anak.

Kesucian ikatan perkahwinan tidak seharusnya dipermain-mainkan kerana ia adalah satu perjanjian yang dibuat antara wali dan si lelaki untuk mengambil seseorang wanita sebagai isteri bersama tanggungjawab yang sudah ditentukan syarak.

Dianggap lebih teruk daripada mutaah iaitu perkahwinan yang mempunyai tarikh atau tempoh tertentu bagi sesebuah perkahwinan memandangkan perkahwinan misyar tiada tempoh ditetapkan.

Jika si suami merasakan hendak meninggalkan isterinya maka dia boleh berbuat demikian. Si suami juga mempunyai kuasa dalam menentukan berapa lama dia hendak hidup bersama wanita yang dikahwininya.

Perkahwinan itu juga mungkin memberi peluang kepada pihak lelaki untuk bertukar-tukar pasangan kerana mereka boleh berkahwin dan meninggalkan isterinya pada bila-bila masa saja.

Pelaksanaan perkahwinan ini akan menambahkan lagi masalah perceraian di negara ini dan berlakunya pertambahan dari segi bilangan ibu tunggal.